All the posts I’ve read about ambiversion stress the positive side of this personality type. As if they just take the positive of being an introvert and the best of being an extrovert and put it into one person. However, this is not always the case, and if you are an ambivert, you can actually experience a lot of confusion and inconsistency in your personality. It is important to understand what is going on inside of you so in order to get the most out of your personality.
What is ambivert personality?
If you are reading this post you are probably aware of the meaning of being ambiverted, otherwise I suggest you read this post where I explain it in greater depth. But, in a nutshell, being an ambivert means that you fall somewhere in the middle of the introversion-extroversion spectrum.
The idea of introversion and extroversion first came from Swiss psychiatrist Carl G. Jung in the early 20th century, who believed that some people were energized by the external world (extroverts) and others were energized by the internal world (introverts).
These personality types are considered within a spectrum. That means someone rarely fits completely into one side or the other, but falls somewhere in between. You could be closer to the extroverted side or closer to the introverted side.
The downside of being an ambivert
You are a source of balance in your relationships
Something that starts out as a natural advantage of being an ambivert can quickly become exhausting.
Ambiverts are considered more flexible because they can move between introversion and extroversion. Depending on the situation, this could put additional pressure on the ambivert. An ambivert may also find themselves in a position to keep the peace in a social or work environment. People closer to the introverted or extroverted side of the personality spectrum may have trouble understanding where the other side is coming from, looking to an ambivert to bridge the gap.
Inconsistency in your relationships
A person who is introverted will display this behavior in most of their relationships. In this way, the social circle will adapt and begin to understand and accept their behavior. They begin to understand that they are leaving a party sooner than most, and they don’t take it personally. The same goes for extroverts, once a person pigeonholes you as an extrovert they will expect certain behaviors from you and create consistency with your personality.
But the former does not happen with ambiverts. Being located in the middle of the spectrum, they will manifest behaviors from both sides. This can be very confusing to their social circle and even to themselves: Why do I suddenly feel like I don’t want to socialize when I normally don’t have any problems?
When people can’t anticipate your behavior they can interpret it as fake or like you’re putting on a mask when interacting with them.
Indecision
Because ambiverts can have just as much fun being alone as they can in a high-stimulation group meeting, this can cause indecisiveness when it comes to making plans. An introverted person knows that he will end up fantasizing about being at home the more time he spends around people. From there, they can take it into account and make a decision. An outgoing person, on the other hand, knows that they want to be around people and be the center of attention, they have no hesitation in saying yes to a plan. But an ambivert can sometimes find himself in the situation of not knowing which plan he wants more.
People think something is wrong with you
Again linked to the point of inconsistency, ambiverts often have to deal with the phrase “why are you so quiet all of a sudden, is something wrong?”. No, they’ve just moved more into the introverted spectrum over time, and while at first they wanted to be involved they now enjoy being quieter. If people don’t know them, they may think that the conversation now makes them uncomfortable or that they have said something unfortunate.
You often want two things at once.
Let me explain, it is as if you have two magnetic poles pushing you in opposite directions. It is common that when you are surrounded by people you fantasize about being in the tranquility of your home, but when you are at home you suddenly feel like being surrounded by people. It’s like you’re never really satisfied.
That’s all for today’s post. I would love to know if you relate with the above and what other points would you add? I see you in the comments!!✌️
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