Signs that you are a boring person 🚩

are you boring

To be in the middle of a story and for someone to start yawning. Looking at the clock. Or perhaps checking their phone to see if they have any new messages. For them not to ask a follow up question… or maybe they don’t seem like they want to hang out with you…

Are all these signs that you’re a boring person?

For a long time that was one of my biggest fears and insecurities. As an introvert I have fairly quiet hobbies: reading a book, listening intently to a podcast, staying home on a weekend, and canceling plans involving a lot of people at the last minute. I have also seen myself in the situation of lying to feel better:

-How are you? What did you do this weekend?

My brain: *thinks about all the “uncool” things I did on my own*

Me: I met some friends for a drink. What about you?

Are introverts boring?

As always, in order to answer this question, we need to understand the meaning of the word boring:

  1. adj. not interesting; tedious.

In other words, boredom is an emotion or signal that lets you know that you are doing something that does not give you satisfaction. It could indicate two things:

  • That you are not present and engaged in the current activity
  • that activity makes no sense to you.

So now to answer the question: are introverts boring people? the answer the question: no, introverts are not boring people. But obviously there are boring introverts but it is independent of their introverted personality.

Let’s see, introverts as a general rule are empaths. We like to put ourselves in the other person’s situation, ask questions more than talk about ourselves. We like to have conversations beyond the trivial. And that is far from boring.

But in an context full of extroverts or not-so-considerate people, where all interrupt each other and there seems to be no dialogue but a monologue, us introverts, may seem bland and without substance.

At the same time, we must bear in mind that is very subjective. Well, that doesn’t seem to clear up much of our doubts as to whether or not we’re boring people, but I need to start here.

Therefore, here are some signs that people THINK you are boring:

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Signs that people find you boring.

signs that you are boring


1. You tend to speak in a monotone

We’ve all had that teacher who made a monologue of his class (but not because he was funny but because he didn’t make the class interactive) and who gave could put you to sleep in just a matter of seconds.

Well, you can be doing the same thing to the people around you. To have a monotonous voice means you have little or no variation in your pitch as you speak. By contrast, good communicators and speakers tend to have a lot of variety in their vocal tonality, hitting both high and low notes as they speak. If you listen to any politician’s speech you will notice that they change their tone to accompany their promises and ideas of the emotion that you should feel at each moment. This is a great way to spark interest in the story you’re telling and avoid boring your listeners.

2. You don’t like to debate ideas

Introverts typically love hypothetical situations, turning things around, and looking at the situation from different perspectives. This is a very enriching gift for any conversation, the problem is that sometimes, we don’t cause confrontation, so we just sit quietly.

People who are afraid to give their opinion and who always end up conforming to the rest can seem boring and uninteresting. I’m not saying that you should go around looking for arguments without reason, but if you have something of value to share speak out without over-thinking so much about the judgment of others.

3. You only talk about yourself

It is something that needs to be mentioned. People who only talk about themselves or who ask questions as an excuse to tell an anecdote without real interest in listening to others end up being exhausting and boring.

You only talk about yourself
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If you are an introvert I doubt you will do this but just in case I must say it.

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4. You do not have a sense of humor

There is nothing worst than people who don’t know how to take a joke. If you have catch yourself getting ofended by things people say, you may want to ask around, to see if people consider you easily ofended. Ask people you can trust and who will give you an honest feedback.

5. You are not spontaneous

People who live better with structure and routine may seem to lack enthusiasm in their lives in the long run. Although I am an advocate of how important it is to have a routine in your life, it is good that you have certain days of the week like the weekend in which you make room for spontaneity. By not planning and still doing.

6. You don’t know how to tell stories

I can relate to this one. I have the power to transform the funniest anecdote into something boring and meaningless. Among other things because I’m go off the rails and lose track easily. Also I forget things as I talk.

If the same thing happens to you and you don’t know how to get the most out of your stories, you can start by practicing how to tell them. No, it is not about you memorizing them like a robot. Try telling the same story in different ways: one describing what you felt, others revealing at the end what really happened. Rehearse creating suspense in your stories as if it were a movie (without going overboard)

7. You don’t have common hobbies

This is a bit subjective, I think we all have hobbies, some as common as playing soccer and others like me… having a blog and YouTube channel. I am aware that with certain people I cannot share my enthusiasm or experience in the digital world, since they do not understand how it works and it would be like talking to a wall.

Perhaps the keyword here is common and popular. These will give you topics of conversation and allow you to give your opinion on it. It does not mean that you have to give up your niche hobbies that you enjoy so much, but if you realize that, for example, in your class there is a lot of talk about football and you want to be “less boring” you can start watching summaries of the latest games to at least know what is being talked about around you.

8. You are not competitive

This sign by itself is not going to indicate that you are a boring person but in compound with others will make you less interesting. In general people who like challenges are usually more entertaining and open to adventure. It does not necessarily have to be a sport but any activity in which you can measure yourself with the rest of your social circle and talk about it.

I’m boring… now what?

How to stop being boring

How to stop being boring

If you have related too much with the previous signs, people may find you boring. It is not the end of the world, but you can start applying certain techniques to introduce novelty into your stories and life.

The first question I want you to ask yourself is: forget about others, do you consider yourself a boring person? So from 1-10 how bored are you in your day to day life? If without the social factor you do not consider yourself a boring person, it does not have to be a problem in itself.

I personally know that a lot of people won’t find me interesting. I have not so common hobbies, making videos on weekends, trying to read a book a month, researching psychology… For the average person these are activities that would seem more like a chore than a hobby. But the reality is that I rarely get bored and if were to get together with people who share the same interests they won’t find me boring.

If, even so, you think that your habits are making you too dull and uninteresting, you can start doing the following:

  • If you don’t know how to tell anecdotes, practice. When it comes to fun experiences that have happened to us, we all have about 2-5 that we usually always tell new people. Practice when you are alone to tell them adding some humor and suspense. The next time you tell the same story, notice when people laugh and adapt your stories. I’m not telling you to lie, but you can create more emotion and use metaphors to make it more fun.
  • Stay informed. When I went to high school, my friends were hooked on all the reality shows like Big Brother and Jersey Shore, among others. That meant that many times I could not participate in the conversation. If that happens to you, you have two options: be happy not to participate or getting involved in the hobbies of your social circle. I recommend somewhere in the middle. It is not necessary to strictly follow a tv show to be able to talk about it. On YouTube, we can find great summaries of known shows that will save you time that you can use in your actual hobbies.
  • If you are a very structured and planning person, set aside one day a week for chaos. If you are like me and you love always knowing what you are going to do, you can plan not to plan. In my case, I usually reserve Sundays so I don’t do anything scheduled in advance.

That’s all for today’s post. Let me know in the comments if you think people consider you a boring person and is it something you plan to change?✌️😅

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