The introverted personality is surrounded by myths and misunderstandings. They are often labeled as inconsiderate and their initial distance is taken as if they do not care about others.
I would like to point out that an introvert does not necessarily have to be shy. While the former gains energy by being alone, a shy person feels embarrassed to socialize even afraid. In the future I will write an article about signs that a shy person likes you so you can see the differences.
Also, introversion is not a label, but can be seen as a spectrum: some people may be a bit introverted, while others may be higher on the scale. Introverts are characterized by the following:
- They will prefer to socialize in smaller groups or one on one
- They are reflective and tend to think before speaking (not so impulsive)
- They are independent
- More reserved and private when sharing your life
- Of course, each person is unique, but some factors that if present in the behavior of an introverted person can be a sign that they like you (not always romantically).
How to tell if an introvert is attracted to you
1.- He asks you many questions
It is their way of feeling comfortable and being vulnerable. It’s one of the traits I also mentioned in the article on why INFJs are so intimidating (a type of introvert). Introverts like to know more about people before opening ourselves. One way we do this is by asking questions and by listening rather than talking.
That is why if an introvert is interested in you, he will show an honest interest in meeting you. You will see that the questions will be more personal than those he asks the rest and that he will remember comments you made without importance.
2.- Attend events only if you go
Large social events are not usually the preference for introverts. It’s not that they don’t like to socialize, but when there are too many people their social battery will run out sooner than normal. That is why if an introvert likes you, you may notice that they shows up more in this type of meeting even though he does not have such a good time.
But, if he also asks you if you will be there before deciding about going or not, it may be a sign that he has a crush on you.
3.- He knows things you haven´t mentioned
Introverts are good detectives and this can be a bit creepy, but nothing to worry about😅. Again related to the previous point, when they like you they want to be able to be open with you, to establish a connection but, at the same time, they do not trust you at first. That is why, in their logic: the more they know about you, the lower the chances of disappointment.
This can lead them to be a little stalkers and know your whole life thanks to social networks. Yeah, they may not post anything for months but that still doesn’t mean they’re not up to date on what’s going on in your life.
If you notice that he asks you about things that you have only published on your social media, it is a sign that he is attentive and aware of what you are doing!
4.- He sends you things through social media
Although some introverts may find it easier to communicate online, most also require space and quiet online; Always being available to answer calls and texts can be just as exhausting for an introvert.
If they initiate communication by messaging you, calling you, or perhaps tagging you in posts, it can be a way of trying to get your attention and letting you know they’re thinking of you.
5.- You feel comfortable talking about personal issues
Introverts tend to be protective of their feelings and therefore may not express as much how they feel or what they think. Also, they value reciprocal relationships and knowing that they are truly being heard, so opening up often takes longer. Extroverts, on the other hand, are quick to share their dreams, aspirations, and hopes with anyone who is willing to listen.
Introverts choose their friends and partners very carefully, so when an introvert feels and decides that you are part of her inner circle, they will begin to share opinions and talk more about personal issues; sharing dreams, fears, desires, secrets, or hurts can be a sign that an introvert trusts you deeply.
An introvert may also ask about your inner world and seeking deeper conversation can be considered a sign of interest.
6.- They change their behavior around you.
As I mentioned earlier, the way introverts behave around people they like can vary depending on their level of trust. One sure way to know an introvert is into you is if she acts differently to you than everyone else.
This is a telling sign even for non-introverts, when someone likes you, they may tend to behave differently around you. If he is loud on a normal day, he may act calm and awkward. For an introvert, the pattern of behavior around you will change depending on their level of confidence.
He can also be more attentive to you, or clumsy or even clumsy, does his behavior change when you walk into the room? Have you heard her friends make fun of him or her when you arrive? This can be a definite sign that he likes you.
7.- They give you their opinion without filters
If an introvert likes you and opens up to you, another sign to watch for is if they offer you advice on topics you haven’t directly asked for.
Introverts are sometimes quite reserved about expressing their opinions or telling others what they think is best for them, but if an introvert cares deeply about you, they may share advice with you whereas with other people they would not even go through all the hassle of being honest.
8.- They invite you to their personal space
Personal space is sacred for introverts, sometimes personal space can be your home or places you usually go alone to recharge your energy (a coffee shop that not everyone knows, or a special corner)
After a full day of social interactions, he wants to retreat to his space and usually doesn’t want company, but when it’s you, he only welcomes you.
Signs that an introvert doesn’t like you 🚩
The signs that an introvert doesn’t like you are more or less the opposite of the signs listed above:
- He shows no indication of allowing you into his personal spaces and fails to communicate his need for and value of alone time.
- He doesn’t respond to his text messages or answer your calls.
- Constantly rejects your offers to spend time together. And it does not propose other different ones to take it up again.
- He never has deep personal conversations with you.
- Doesn’t follow you back on social media.
Keep in mind though, that it is possible to be introverted and shy at the same time. In such a case, the person may want to have deep conversations with you, invite you to his house but feel a deep fear of communicating it. Social anxiety can also lead to contradictory behaviors like accepting an invitation and canceling at the last minute.
One way to know if your crush has anxiety is if she is extremely uncomfortable in the conversation, if she has nervous body language, among other things.
I hope this article has made it a bit clearer what to look for when it comes to knowing if an introvert likes you. As you can see, we are more reserved when it comes to showing our feelings, so sometimes you will have to make the first move!
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