Are you an INFJ? Do you know how intimidating you can seem to be? Although you may not be aware of it in your day-to-day life, your personality gives you an air of mystery and intrigue.
For me it’s something I’ve always heard throughout my life as an INFJ. There are several characteristics that can contribute to this, like the fact that we are more of a listener than a talker, that you remember small details that others overlook or your mysterious look.
In today’s post we will see some characteristics that make the world’s weirdest personality intimidate others and how it can be something in our favor.
About INFJs
The INFJ is believed to be the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type, making up only 1-3 percent of the population. “INFJ” is an acronym that stands for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), and Judgment (J). This makes us introverted and people-oriented, emotional and rational, thoughtful but sometimes spontaneous. INFJs can feel like paradoxes (yours truly 🙋♀️).
This type of personality makes decisions based on their feelings and not on facts. The judgmental component of their personality makes them organized, structured, so they will always build firm plans to know in advance what to expect.
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Why INFJ intimidate other personalities
They seem mysterious
INFJs are often a mystery to others. They have quite complex personalities making often other people confused about them and their intentions. INFJs are not the most open people with strangers, keeping most of their personal lives to themselves.
While INFJs can seem somewhat aloof, they are also warm and affectionate towards others. This is also somewhat confusing and difficult for their social circle to understand. When people deal with an INFJ they don’t get the predictable reactions like with other personality types. This can make it feel like they never fully know the person.
They are “inconsistent”
As you may already know, INFJs are great observers and analyzers of other people’s behavior. In group situations, they are more likely not to speak but listen. When they decide to join the conversation, however, it is not for trivial comments. They will add deep reflections where they bring to light everything that was going through their heads while they remained silent.
This can be very intimidating to other types of personalities. But also, INFJs don’t behave consistently. They will only let you into their inner world if they think you’re worth the effort. Most people don’t get past that initial screen. Partly because they feel vulnerable when they give away too much information about themselves.
They are not just lost in their head daydreaming. They are focused and absorbing what is happening around them. That can create an intense and sometimes intimidating vibe.
They know more about you than you do about them
We don’t do it on purpose but it is something that is often repeated with INFJs. In 1-on-1 conversations, the other person will feel comfortable sharing their emotions, experiences, and secrets that they wouldn’t share with another person. However, over time we will know everything about them and they hardly know anything about you.
The reality is that as INFJs want to understand people. Every person we meet is like a puzzle. We want to understand what their motivations are, what inspired them to be who they are today, what their insecurities are, etc. Sometimes we get this information through observation, from intuition ir by asking the right questions.
They are very perceptive about others.
INFJs often want someone to understand them as well as they understand others. They are not good with remembering details like the birthday of their co-workers or what type of music they like. But when it comes to deeper topics they are the masters. People with INFJ personality use their intuition to get below the surface, getting inside other people’s heads and finding out what makes them tick.
They often know when someone is lying even to themselves. INFJs are unaware of how they know so much about other people, and they will probably never reveal how deep their knowledge is.
INFJ are a very competitive personality
Believe it or not, behind the INFJ’s enigmatic nature, private life, and empathetic personality lies a fierce competitiveness.
As we saw earlier, INFJs are people who are passionate about what really matters to them. They love real challenges. From sports, writing contests or video games.
As they are very growth oriented, eager to learn and push their limits, competition is something that allows them to explore all of that.
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INFJ are good at predicting what will happen
Sometimes INFJs feel like prophets or psychics as what they predicted comes true. But it’s not like INFJs have a crystal ball. Rather, their introverted intuition helps them see the big picture, notice patterns, and make predictions for the future based on what they’ve observed. They see what could be, not necessarily what will happen with absolute certainty.
That’s all for today’s post. Let me know in the comments if you think you intimidate others, have they ever told you?
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